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Post by WinterWitch on May 23, 2005 11:01:50 GMT -5
Why is it that there are so few Donor's willing to discuss their experiences with donating? Why do you shroud it in such secrecy?
I had thought about becoming a donor but if no one is willing to talk about it it sort of spooks me about trying it.
Sage
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Post by Obscure Thoughts on May 23, 2005 12:28:22 GMT -5
Think of it this way...
Would you feel comfortable talking about all (or most) of the intimate things that go on between you and your significant other to a complete stranger? It's kinda like that. It's not really shrouded in secrecy... It's just private, y'know? Plus, experiences vary from donor to donor, and vamp to vamp. It depends somewhat on both parties tastes and how they feel about several factors, like the whole blood drinking thing, just to name one. Think of it this way: You take a group of 5 people and stick them in front of the Mona Lisa. Every single one of them will end up with a different theory as to why in the hell she's smirking. And every donor you come across will have a different reasoning for donating and reaction to the process. It's kinda hard to make a generalization. Hope that helps.
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Post by WinterWitch on May 24, 2005 22:41:52 GMT -5
It does give me some more insight into why everyone isn't talking about it. But it doesn't give me any incentive to offer to donate. I have questions and no one out here is offering any answers.
For instance, where would I even begin to look for a vamp to donate to? And are there places that do testing for Free? Do I call the shots or is it the Vampire who tells me how we are going to do things? Will they offer friendship in return for my donation or is this like a sterile sort of relationship? Will they come to me or will I be expected to travel to donate to them?
These are just a few of the countless questions I have...and if you guys are going to be so silent about everything where do I go to find the answers?
Sage
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Post by Jesterkitty on May 31, 2005 6:45:25 GMT -5
I am new to this as well, and I too would also like to know. I look forward to your reply's. Thank you
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Post by Obscure Thoughts on Jun 7, 2005 22:58:06 GMT -5
It does give me some more insight into why everyone isn't talking about it. But it doesn't give me any incentive to offer to donate. I have questions and no one out here is offering any answers. Well, I'll see if I can't help. Well, you're already on a vamp-riddled forum (vamp-riddled being meant in the best way possible *grins*). You can also go to other vampy-type forums. You might have a friend or two that is a vamp, and you just don't know. Planned parenthood, I believe, does HIV testing. Plus, in some very urban areas, there's a van that goes around to do testing. But, normally, if you have health coverage, and you go to a doctor (especially girls who go to OB/GYN's on a regular basis), your health coverage should cover it, since it's considdered preventative. Some drugstores even carry home testing kits for HIV. Not the other blood borne STDs, though. It's a kind of see saw relationship, like most reationships. Give and take. And if you feel uncomfortable with something, speak up! The person you're donating to should understand. If you don't understand something, they should also explain it, like if they have a certain way of taking things (blood, energy, etc..), and you don't understand why it's done in that specific way, they will most likely explain it to you so you can understand. Vamp - Donor bonding, dontcha know? *grins* It depends on the both of you. If you both want a friendship (or more), you can have it, or you can have as sterile a relationship as you want. Depends on the both of you. You might be lucky and live near the guy/girl. And you'll be able to do what you need to do in the comfort of your own home. Or their home. It's also probably easier on the both of you if you live near each other. LDR's of this sort I have no real experience with. Plain old dating, yes... Donating, nope. Sorry. Hope that helps Pixie
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Post by AcaciaPhoenix on Jun 13, 2005 14:34:17 GMT -5
First and foremost. Don't donate to anyone who wants you to compromise your integrity. I am a donor occassionally. I don't donate to anyone that I haven't known for a while. I get regular check ups and I also require that those I'm donating to do the same. If you are uncomfortable in any way then you have the right to say so and also to say no. After all, it's your body to do with as you see fit. No one else can make you do anything you don't want to do.
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Post by Obscure Thoughts on Jun 20, 2005 22:00:03 GMT -5
Yeah... I'm very finicky on who I donate to.. I'm like, limited to like, 3 or 4 people that I'll randomly donate to.
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