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Post by WingedWolfPsion on Jul 26, 2004 12:16:33 GMT -5
As an ex-vampire, I have some issues. I'm actually considering trying out being a donor in order to deal with them. Likely energy only. Anyone have pros or cons to offer on this idea? See, I find it makes me nervous.
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Post by AcaciaPhoenix on Aug 25, 2004 11:42:26 GMT -5
I was nervous about being a donor as well, Sanguine or otherwise.
You really have to trust the person you are going to donate to. Don't just pick anyone. Compatability does help to make you more at ease.
I don't donate often, only when it's really needed or if my friend's regular donor is not available.
Mind you I would become a full time donor, but I don't know of anyone who needs one to be honest LOL.
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Post by WingedWolfPsion on Aug 26, 2004 14:49:55 GMT -5
Hmmm...I'm not sure it's a trust issue...I'm vain enough to think I can probably overpower anyone if necessary, lol. But it is odd, so few are looking these days. Well, it's an improvement over 8 years ago, anyhow, when so many folks couldn't find donors at all.
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Post by AcaciaPhoenix on Aug 30, 2004 13:27:58 GMT -5
I feel it's a trust issue on the donor's part. Since I'm the one being cut or having energy taken from me, I'm trusting the one I'm donating to, not to make it harmful to me in any way. I'm placing MY trust in the one I'm donating to. I am at their mercy, so I feel that I, myself need to know the individual well before I even offer my blood or other energies to them.
Also the taking any form of energy (As it was stated...by over powering them) from an unwilling individual (not a crowd) is not partaking of a donor IMHO, that to me is almost as bad as rape.
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Post by WingedWolfPsion on Aug 30, 2004 17:05:13 GMT -5
I expect many may see it that way....I personally do not feel that I need to place my trust in another to prevent my being harmed...I can take care of myself, and prevent myself from being harmed.
I'm not sure what it is I'm looking for. Perhaps I need to be in that situation, and have the confidence of being in control of it?
I don't see this as a case of submitting myself to someone...on the contrary, they would be asking ME for something, which they would not be able to take from me without my will.
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Post by Mairi on Sept 11, 2004 16:32:30 GMT -5
After reading the exchange here I just realized something. The donor really is the one in charge almost exactly as it is in a dominate/submissive relationship. Nothing is taken but rather given by request. So trust really isn't or shouldn't be the issue in most cases.
I, myself, am in a situation right now where someone has approached me asking to be my donor. We are discussing what we are willing to do for one another. But still even in this situation it's entirely up to the person who wants to share their life force with me.
Mairi
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Post by Mairi on Sept 11, 2004 16:33:44 GMT -5
In your first post you said you had issues, if they aren't too personal, might I ask what those issues are?
Mairi
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Post by AcaciaPhoenix on Sept 13, 2004 11:36:33 GMT -5
I can see how the donor would be viewed as being in charge b/c they are the ones offering...but what I mean is that I would not be cutting myself, so I place my trust in the person who is to make sure that they use caution. After the session is over then it is my responsibility to take care of myself. Does that make sense?
Involving yourself with another in any way IS a matter of trust regardless of the involvement. You are trusting the other person with the things you say, and do. Does this make sense?
*hugs* Acacia
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Post by Mairi on Sept 13, 2004 12:19:22 GMT -5
It does make sense but in some donor/vamp relationships it is the donor who does the cutting. Some vamps are afraid that they will cut too deep and cause harm to the donor so they basicly hand the blade to the one doing the donating.
Chosing one's donor is as important as chosing who you donate to....it is a relationship of sorts....and to be entered into only after a lot of consideration.
Mairi
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Post by AcaciaPhoenix on Sept 27, 2004 13:37:02 GMT -5
I've never done the full cutting act of being a donor so I see what you mean. I've only had done the finger pricking and I did not prick my own finger at the time.
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Post by WingedWolfPsion on Jan 11, 2005 1:07:10 GMT -5
Late reply, as I have had internet connection troubles.
I almost hesitate to go into the issues in question, not because they're too personal, but because they're controversial in the community.
I'm an ex-sanguinarian, something most of the community doesn't believe is possible. Rather than going into exhaustive details, let's just say that the demons I'm confronting are my own memories. I'd spent far too long starving, and I suppose it must be that the hunger frightens me. This is no rational fear, particularly since I've no intention of donating to a sanguinarian. I don't think psyvamps feel quite the same way, anyhow.
To me, anything that causes an irrational fear response is an issue I ought to be working through. I want to dig it out by the roots and identify it, and then get rid of it. The fact that I'm not entirely sure of the cause of my emotional reaction is a large part of the reason I want to confront it. I prefer to understand myself.
As for the razor bit, I've always seen the donors making the cuts themselves, and I sure as heck couldn't imagine letting someone else cut me...I freak out just getting blood drawn at the doctor's office, lol. In fact, I don't think I'd have ever cut a donor, either, the few I had, I handed the blade over. I've no desire to cause pain to anyone.
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